Letting Go

Kindness, compassion and forgiveness are all essential human values. Our well-being thrives from these values, along with mindfulness and tolerance.

These values bring people together.

These values create a life in harmony.

Focusing on our differences, creates conflict and separation.

Focusing on what we have in common, brings us together and promotes peace.

I’ve been in social media since 2008. It has been an educational journey both good and bad. I’ve experienced some of the most destructive human behaviors. I’ve learned some very important things about human beings that I could have never learned otherwise. I’ve seen people who preach about spirituality, unconditional love and praying daily, doing terrible things. I’ve seen people who pretended to be a loving friend, invading private lives, then being unbelievably abusive and defaming others’ character in public. These are the predators, the ones who lie, cheat and use gossip to hurt and harm others. And then there are those who participate in gossip, seemingly unaware of the damage they cause while they preach honesty and integrity. I’ve seen it all.

This blog isn’t about all the terrible things that people do on the internet. People do terrible things in real life too. There is a great value in the lessons learned.

My intention is positive. I want to emphasize that no matter what others say or do, we still have a choice. My choice has always been “forgive, forget and move on,” however, it was tough at times.

The main reason why I wanted to write this blog is that some friends are not happy that they’re being unfollowed, blocked or unfriended in social media. Before I elaborate more, I would like to mention that each case is individual. Everyone has his/her own reason to unfriend or block friends in social media. We are all human beings. We all feel hurt or shocked by unexplained actions, even more so on the net because we can’t even find out the real reason behind hurtful actions.

Back in 2009, I never understood why someone blocked or unfollowed me on Twitter or someone else blocked me on Facebook but still wanted to be my friend on Twitter. In one particular case, I was very confused as the person who blocked me had said they loved me shortly prior to their bizarre action. Yet in another case, a person blocked me because I posted my deepest sympathy after an online friend tragically passed away. How could I know this person (who blocked me) had conflicts and dramas with the deceased? That’s beside the point, isn’t it? Am I not allowed to express my sadness when an online friend dies? And yet another weird example where the person blocked me because I called them by their name. Should I have followed them around on the net and keep myself updated about their moment by moment dramas? Why didn’t they privately let me know that they don’t want me to call them by their name? Where is the honesty in friendship? I even saw one person gossiping about me in public timeline. When I acknowledged their gossip, they wouldn’t even say a word to apologize. I must admit I was baffled by all their emotional immaturity. These are just a few examples to show you how bizarre “relationships” can get online. But I have grown.

Humility and integrity are essential to achieve long-lasting success in both personal and professional relationships.

To protect ourselves, we need to develop a life strategy. If we want to avoid dramas and nightmares, we have to build up our immunity. Once you’re immune from the predators, nothing that they say or do will affect you. Keep in mind that these predators are usually insecure, misguided people disguised as socially confident people. Don’t fall in their trap because the trap is an endless circle of deception and cruelty created by their lies. Don’t play their game. They target kind people, thinking kind people are easy prey. Trust your instincts. If you are true to yourself, you won’t be easy prey.

Don Miguel Ruiz’s “Four Agreements” clearly states: “Don’t take anything personally.” This is a very useful tool and an absolute key to personal freedom because you rule your life according to your own values, not according to other people’s opinions. In the final analysis, nothing people do or say about you, has anything to do with you. It is about the emotional baggage they bring with them. In other words, they are dealing with their own garbage. They need to take out the trash from their past. This is very important to understand.

Actions always reveal one’s true character.
Words are not always true.

Observe the patterns. Surround yourself with those who value your worth. And remember, wisdom is knowing what to ignore. You will be free from pursuing unimportant dramas that ultimately will damage or hurt you.

I will conclude with late Dr. Wayne W. Dyer’s statement from Real Magic: “They owe me nothing. I expect nothing of them. I will just accept them where they are right now.”

 

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“Speak truth in humility to all people. Only then can you be a true man.”          ~Sioux Saying

Locked Out

On Twitter you can admire beautiful photography and art, learn from scientists, receive advice from well-known professionals, gain insight from the Dalai Lama and the Pope or see what inspires artists and musicians. Twitter offers direct access to the most fascinating people in the world. You can get real-time updates from anywhere in the world, 24/7. Twitter is a global community that never sleeps.

I joined Twitter in 2008. Since then, I’ve built great relationships, interacting and supporting people all around the world, unconditionally. And I’ve met wonderful people on Twitter; my favorite actors, musicians, writers, authors, artists, poets, change makers and philanthropists that I would have not met outside Twitter. I hope the love and respect I feel for my Twitter friends, is mutual.

Twitter is a news and social network. However, there is an essential element missing; the traditional interpersonal communication between Twitter’s management and their (automated) support system.

In the past months and long before, Twitter has been flooded with impersonators, horrible trolls and those selling followers. If you’re the target of impersonation, outright personal attacks, or flooded with spam bot followers, and you choose to file a report, you receive an automated response. In my experience, Twitter doesn’t shut down impersonators, trolls or spam bot accounts.

There is a total lack of communication as a result of non-existing customer service.

It is very important in business to be a master of your own products and services. We (the people) invest our time and energy to support Twitter. Without us, Twitter could not exist. Without us, Twitter would collapse. I think this is very important to understand. Twitter’s Customer Support System needs to take action and that action is going to make the difference. Twitter’s Customer Support System needs to listen to their customers’ concerns or they will never understand the issues the loyal Twitter users are facing. The email responses from the Twitter Help Center should not be automated.

This brings me to the incident I experienced on Twitter.

On Friday evening, June 26, 2015, My Twitter screen said:

“Your account appears to have exhibited automatic behavior that violates the Twitter rules. To unlock your account, please click the button below and confirm that you are the valid account owner. Enter your mobile phone number. We will send you a text message with a confirmation code. Once you’ve received it, enter the Verification code to unlock your account.”

Needless to say, I had to enter my mobile phone number in order to unlock my account. It’s noteworthy to mention that I didn’t have any phone number associated with my Twitter account (only my email address).

Which part of my Twitter feed is automated? Absolutely none. Since Twitter’s Help Center is automated, no one checked the facts.

There are also notable discrepancies between the Twitter Help Center’s procedures and what has actually happened.

1) The Twitter Help Center says: “If you have an email address associated with your account, we also sent instructions to that address. If you don’t see an email from us, please check your spam, junk and social folders.”
I didn’t receive any email from Twitter.

2) The Twitter Help Center says: “Enter your phone number. Please note that unless you have otherwise associated a phone number with your account, we will delete it after verification is complete.” This was not my experience as Twitter didn’t delete my mobile phone number. I had to delete my mobile phone number under “settings”. In other words, If I didn’t check my settings, Twitter would have kept my phone number on file (which is fine if it was private for Twitter only. It isn’t which is the problem. I don’t want to share my phone number with the rest of the world).

Now, how about those who don’t have a smart phone? What if their account gets locked? They have no way of unlocking their account without a mobile phone number as Twitter requires to send a verification code to unlock the respective account.

Twitter disappointed me in the following ways:

1) They didn’t send me an email to unlock my account.
2)The accusation was false (as none of my tweets are automated and I am the sole owner of my account).
3) They require access to mobile phone numbers to unlock (unfairly locked) accounts. When has this become mandatory?

I urge Twitter to establish an active customer service center with actual humans behind the screen. A social media business that is almost completely automated will always have issues because the customers are “interacting live” 24/7. Strong customer service support will give Twitter the power to keep growing and growing.

Namaste!

 

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“The wicked envy and hate; it is their way of admiring.” -Victor Hugo

Remembering Robin Williams

“Tears shed for another person are not a sign of weakness. They are a sign of a pure heart.” ~José N. Harris

It’s natural to feel sad when someone close to us dies.
To feel a great sense of loss when someone whom you have never met dies, makes that person very special.

Monday afternoon, I got online to check some news. I can’t explain the shock I felt. I was totally stunned and really hoped it was a hoax.
How could Robin Williams be gone? I got on Twitter in tears. Sadly, it wasn’t a hoax. The world’s most beloved comedian, talented actor and beautiful human being, the genius Robin Williams passed away. I was heartbroken.

Like the rest of the world, I am completely devastated. His gifts to us span four decades. From the stage as a stand up comedian to actor of the big and small screen, he was insightful and brilliant. He was Mork in Mork & Mindy, the Radio Jock in Good Morning Vietnam, the Professor in Good Will Hunting, the Genie in Aladdin, Peter Pan in Hook and Mrs. Doubtfire plus many others. His role as an English teacher in Dead Poets Society still inspires people to become teachers.

I have never seen such an outpouring of love and support from friends, adoring fans and the media. The tributes coming in from family, friends and fans only confirm what we already knew. He was a gentle and generous soul. He was kind to all.

Robin Williams has a special place in our hearts. He was the world’s honorary uncle. His immeasurable talent(s) touched something deep inside of us. That is what true artists do.

My heart aches for his family and friends. I hope the media including the social media will allow them to mourn and grieve in peace.

We hope you have found the peace and laughter you gave to us all.
Gone from this world yet never forgotten.
Farewell, yet not goodbye.
We will miss you, Uncle Robin.

Here are little pearls of wisdom from Robin Williams: 50 great quotes

“No matter what people tell you, words and ideas can change the world!” ~Robin Williams, Dead Poets Society
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Bee a Righty

In the end, I’m not as interested in what you have to tell or sell as in how you choose to live and give. ~Cory Booker

Today, I read a very interesting article: Honeybees use right antennae to tell friend from foe

Researchers reveal that sensory neuron asymmetry affects how bees navigate social situations. It appears that honeybees use their right antenna to distinguish between friends and intruders.

The new study shows that honeybees with only a right antenna recognize and behave in a heartfelt way toward each other. When honeybees interact solely with their right antennas, they are more sociable, positive and interact with each other more cordially. Yet honeybees with only a left antenna go on the attack, even though they are hive-mates. In other words, when they have only their left antennas, they will more likely respond in an aggressive and negative way.

The same study suggests that the bees’ brains are wired asymmetrically, as are human brains. The right and left sides of the bees’ brains seem to perform different functions, like humans’ brains. This new study implies that brain asymmetry isn’t a uniquely human phenomenon after all.

A honeybee’s brain contains only 960,000 neurons whereas an average human brain contains 86 billion neurons. This just shows how extraordinary honeybees are. They are extremely smart. They use their right antennas to navigate complex social situations.

We humans have a lot to learn from the honeybees.

I bet honeybees would be more civilized in social media. Some people in social media seem to be always on attack mode, whether they do it in public or behind the scenes. They seem to use their left antennas only. Celebrities and those who are friends with celebrities are prone to some ugly aggressive behaviors by others. Low self-esteem, insecurity and a fear-dominated mind-set must have have damaged their ability to use the right antenna.

I am right-brained. I prefer to use my right antenna and I always did. It has always served me well. Just like honeybees, the right antenna is indeed my caller-ID. I can see the difference between authentic and fake friends (those who pretend to be friends). I can distinguish between someone who is sincere and who isn’t. However, I always treat everyone with respect, no matter what.

I wish everyone could use their right antenna. It will always serve well both in personal and professional relationships. But if you can’t use your right antenna, at least be a good listener.

One way to break out of a negative mind-set is to identify the behaviors linked to your fears and try to find out which fears are motivating your decisions (that are ultimately damaging you).

Our actions are always echoed back to us. Choose kindness. If you can’t help people, at least don’t hurt them.

Utilize your right antenna. It can transform your life.

 

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“The greatest fear in the world is of the opinions of others. And the moment you are unafraid of the crowd you are no longer a sheep, you become a lion. A great roar arises in your heart, the roar of freedom. When a man reaches an absolutely silent state, he roars like a lion.” ~Osho

Feed Your Soul

“If you want to be a writer, you must do two things above all others: read a lot and write a lot.” Stephen King

Lately, I found myself reading more than writing. At times, my writing is painfully slow. I’m a fast reader and have always been. Now, I feel my brain suffers from web overload. Does this sound familiar? I also have a feeling that I’m reading at a superficial level when I am on the Internet. Sometimes, I miss the days when I used to read articles in print. There was something special about that. I remember I was one of the most prolific readers at my university. It’s fascinating how adaptable we humans are. How incredibly good we are in developing new habits through repetition. How did we go from reading in print to skimming headlines and clicking from one page to the next in a matter of seconds? No doubt that the new technology is altering our brains profoundly. We spend considerable time in front of computer screens. I’m not even mentioning the time many people spend in front of the television. Personally, I don’t watch much TV, which is perhaps a good thing. After all, there are only so many hours in the day.

The internet continues to be a major part of our lives yet finding a mental/emotional balance is certainly a challenge. Our brains are vulnerable to bad habits. We should schedule regular breaks.

Now, I visit the local library to read magazines. I notice the pleasant/natural feeling I have while turning the page the good old fashioned way. I feel more inspired to keep writing. I feel I think faster and focus better. I leave the library feeling joyful, refreshed and recharged.

Dean Ornish, a clinical professor at UCSF and founder of the Preventive Medicine Research Institute, says: “Your genes are not your fate.”
He also says:“When you live healthier, eat better, exercise, and love more, your brain cells actually increase.”

I believe the key is to integrate our resources. Making healthy life style choices will boost our brain power and listening to our souls will feed our creativity.

The mind speaks. The soul listens.
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Giving Gives Back

Give. Remember always to give. That is the thing that will make you grow.~ Dame Elizabeth Taylor

Everything on our planet has a purpose. Our lives have a purpose.

I’ve discovered that natural givers are always happy, no matter what.

My husband and I lead a simple life. However, we’re both generous people which is the building block in our relationship. We both enjoy helping whenever and however we can.

Yesterday, I was a little tired due to just a few hours sleep yet something profound happened which gave me such energy and filled my heart with joy. Something which made me think how our lives should be about giving and reaching out to others. We donated an item to a kind soul. When this kind soul reciprocated our act of giving with the utmost kindness, my entire being was, once again, filled with the most powerful fuel: LOVE.
I noticed my husband’s joy as well.

“Giving becomes more important than getting because giving is in alignment with your purpose.” ~Dr. Wayne Dyer

Givers are always the miracle workers. When we focus on giving as our life purpose, we seem to receive more. It’s all about unconditional giving, with no expectations in return. If you do this, you’ve aligned yourself with the universe. You’re a miracle worker and more will come your way. Believe it!

Giving gives back. It fuels the universe.

 

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Social Media Friendships

“There is nothing I would not do for those who are really my friends. I have no notion of loving people by halves, it is not my nature.” ~Jane Austen

Social media has changed the way we communicate and connect with the rest of the world. The profound impact Social Media has had on our lives, is evident (News, Learning, Interaction, Political Awareness, Activism, Marketing).

I love my Social Media connections and do my best to focus on true friends.

If you have good friends, no matter how difficult life can be, they can brighten your day.

A man’s friendships are one of the best measures of his worth. ~Charles Darwin

Social Networking giant, Twitter, is still my favorite Social Media Channel. I’ve met people from all over the world and age groups.

Some say social media friendships are not real unless you meet in person. I respectfully disagree. Like everything else in life, it depends entirely on the efforts people make.

I consider it a great privilege to have loyal friends. Some Twitter friends have been kind enough to send me gifts.

I received a beautiful greeting card featuring the artwork of the talented artist Baret Boisson.

Fashion Designer George Zaharoff gifted me with a beautiful framed quote
“I invoke positives” in the form of a fabric label. This and other inspirational quotes were selected by George to be sewn into his clothing line.
Also pictured, Zaharoff pour Homme for my husband.

I received some beautiful scented candles from Kathy Ireland. Please also see my earlier blog post: Lite a candle.

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The nutritious Zing Bars that I received from the lovely Stacey Fujimura, were absolutely delicious.

Thank you for your generous gifts.
I cherish your kind and loving friendships.

You can follow them on Twitter:

Baret Boisson
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George Zaharoff
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Kathy Ireland
kathyireland.com

Stacey Fujimura
zingbars.com

Sweet Tweets Everyone!

Bring Love Into Your Life

“We are star stuff and our destiny lies in our origins.” ~Carl Sagan

Many people equate love with (romantic) relationships. No wonder many are disappointed when they don’t find the love they’re seeking outside themselves. The same with happiness. The joy of being and happiness cannot come to us through possession, achievement, people or anything. It emanates from within us. The greater love is what we have inside.

Unconditional love is the ultimate divine source. This is the basis of oneness. All things derive from one source. We are all connected in the universe. We are all related to one another. The divine source accepts all beings unconditionally. How can we then not accept all beings as they are? When we are ruled by the power of ego/fear to separate and reject, we don’t. We can only acknowledge all beings as they are when we accept the conscious unconditional love. Love gives us energy and guides us. Fear distracts us and ultimately destroys us. Our greatest power is the acceptance and appreciation of the power of love we have inside us.

“A friend” who wronged me in unspeakable ways, was a sad image in my mind for a while. Perhaps it was more like a shock coming from someone who identified themselves as being a spiritual person. It didn’t matter how unloving they behaved and what they said over the months, I remained non reactive. Because I knew that their unloving behavior was derived from fear. Fear is an illusion created by the ego. It’s my understanding that people who suffer from (past) guilty emotions exhibit what I would like to call a “social hallucination”. When people behave in cruel ways, they’ve forgotten that their true power “Love” resides within them. They let their ego (Fear) control their thoughts and emotions. All we can do is keep them in our own (Positive) light hoping that they will return to their true power. Compassion is the most important thing in the world and essential for our survival.

“When they cast you into darkness, love them for helping you discover your inextinguishable light.” ~Cory Booker

The Kite Runner by Khaled Hosseini touched my soul deeply and I highly recommend it. The heart of the novel is unconditional love.

If you feel love, it will convert into positive energy.
If you feel miserable/sad/envious, it will convert into negative energy.
It’s as simple as that.

All flowers, plants and trees are beautiful, though they are different. We shouldn’t strive to be better than others. Why do we have to compete? Nature doesn’t. We are all unique in our own way. Like Kathy Ireland says: “Beauty comes in all ages, colors, shapes, and forms. God never makes junk.”

Finally, a great reminder:

“The softest of all things overrides the hardest of all things” (Chapter 43 of the Tao Te Ching).

Bring Love Into Your Life!

 

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Keep it positive

“Choose the positive. You have choice, you are master of your attitude, choose the positive, the constructive. Optimism is a faith that leads to success.” ~Bruce Lee

I’ve observed three main character traits that I believe are self-destructive in social networking and building relationships.

1. Cynicism
Cynics are known as suspicious, paranoid and mistrustful of others. Scientists categorize this character trait as hostility. Cynics are not necessarily bad people. They read into people’s behaviors, calling it a gut instinct and being suspicious of even a kind gesture.

Where does all this suspicion stem from? It stems from being paranoid and mistrustful of others and has deep roots in their past experiences. I’ve learned that those with low self-esteem (disguised as confident people) display this character trait.

2. Lack of self-control:

Some people react to every possible tweet, post and they over-analyze. Some others get angry if they don’t receive a response or if they receive a response that differs from their point of view. Then, they go into the attack mode. They say words that they will regret later, which is unfortunately too late. Most feel ashamed of it but their ego won’t allow them to apologize.

Restraint is very important for online relationships as well as in real life. However, unlike real life, what you say online is forever. Don’t think that those private messages, phone calls, Google hang outs or Skype chats are private.

3. Envy, Jealousy and Gossip

Unfortunately, some people, especially women seem to be driven by envy and jealousy. Some of them go as far as telling lies, gossiping and spreading rumors. Lack of purpose in their lives is perhaps the main reason for such viciousness. It’s self destructive and destroy others who are subjected to bullying. It hurts all parties yet mostly the person who is doing it. Yes, I do believe in Karma.

When you tweet: “Be Kind, Be Real”, extend it outside twitter and apply it in your life. Your words have little meaning if your actions contradict them.

Some friends ask me how I remain positive no matter what happens. I’ve learned that positivity depends vitally how I think. Just like life, positivity is fragile. Take a moment to notice your surroundings in social media and ask yourself: How does social media benefit me and others? What is going right for me here?

“If you wish to make an apple pie from scratch, you must first invent the universe.”~Carl Sagan

Think of positivity like a beautiful color palette; love, joy, serenity, hope, inspiration, interest, gratitude and awe.

If your social media experience doesn’t seem to serve you well, maybe you weigh it down with self-doubt and cynicism. Be open. Be sincere. Be grateful. Be appreciative. Thinking in this manner can ignite positivity and puts a smile on your face. Be sure to take a few moments each day, to reply and interact with your friends. Positivity broadens our minds and outlook. Positivity enables us to attract people whom we mutually benefit from and helps us see unlimited possibilities around us. It makes us stronger to cope with adversity.

Positivity can change your life and it can change your communities. It can create a more compassionate and harmonic community.

More than once, I’ve been asked this question: How do I deal with rude and negative people? My mind doesn’t embrace combat and war like tactics. My mind simply thinks of peace. I don’t de-humanize people who wronged me as my enemies. I rather think of them as unfortunate small-minded people with big egos who are suffering and lashing out. In my thoughts I extend them love and compassion. Even though they tried to harm me, I still find qualities about them that I can appreciate. Their negativity belongs to them, not me. Last but not least, I see them as teachers in disguise. I’ve experienced this in the past year. I still came out ahead so can you. You can disarm the negativity.

“Absorb what is useful, Discard what is not, Add what is uniquely your own.” ~Bruce Lee

Kindness and positivity nurture each other. In my experience, kind people are focused on how they can make a difference and how they can lend a hand. By boosting kindness, we also increase our positivity. We are more compassionate towards others even under adverse circumstances. By helping others you will help yourself. I haven’t met anyone who reached his or her potential by themselves. Connect with others. You’ll notice an increased positivity and in turn will attract positivity. So interact with others everyday no matter what. Open your heart and mind.

 

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Enjoy the dance of life!

“To be wronged is nothing…unless you continue to remember it.” ~Confucius

One of my social and team management strengths is observation. This skill helps me in Social Media.

I feel fortunate to be able to see the good in others. As I often tweet, I don’t look for the good in others, I SEE the good in others. This doesn’t mean that I’ve always been good in trusting my intuition.

Good and bad are part of Social Media just like everything else in life and can’t be avoided. Instead of going against the grain of social media and exhausting ourselves by abandoning our presence, we can see trolls, impostors and negative people as part of a social media cycle. I am aware who they are and what they do behind the scenes. It may take a while yet people reveal themselves sooner or later. I am blessed with a big heart, excellent memory and intuition. I’ve learned that trusting my intuition is very important in social media relationships.

We can all tweet and blog about love, kindness, honesty, forgiveness and karma. However, our actions speak louder than words. Voicing your ideals is fine, but do your actions contradict those ideals? We are what we consistently do, not what we preach. I am a firm believer of universal justice. What we send out, comes back. What we see in others, exists in us.

“Do not do to others that which angers you when they do it to you.” ~Isocrates

Life is full of misfortune; famine, flood, drought, earthquake, corruption, invasion, loneliness and FEAR. Disasters hit us without warning. People are starving and dying in wars around the globe. Family members and close friends can be abusive and exploit one another. Hard work is often rewarded with pennies and betrayal. Despite our wealth of information, ignorance prevails. Money in the wrong hands can be destructive and corrupt. Homelessness is ever present in growing rates. Many people live from paycheck to paycheck. We can’t understand life without embracing misfortune. We must find a way out of the dark and into the light. We can seek our own light which is the source of our power. As the sun shines for everyone, we can shine and let the light of good shine upon us all, even though life can be painful. We need patience and we need to know our purpose and where we’re going.

Along our social media journey, we meet and will meet many people. We meet people who see the good in us and we meet people who are distrustful, jealous and envious. Evil is inevitable. During encounters, the wisest people are careful to avoid confrontations. Restraint is best. Whenever possible avoid toxic people. Make your Social Media encounters as positive as possible.

Everything we tweet, provokes a reaction. Conflict is inevitable. Be sparing and cautious in your reaction. Take a deep breath and count to ten before responding. Remember, Anger is temporary “reaction”. Just imagine the endless Direct Message or tweet exchange if you indeed choose to respond. In this way, you can avoid excess and meaningless conversation. It’s useless to argue. Know when to advance and when to retreat. Don’t slay others with careless words.

“The superior man is slow in his words and earnest in his conduct.” ~Confucius

Social Media friends come and go as the seasons come and go. The ones who stay are your true friends. Loyalty is the foundation of a true friendship. If things are not going your way, be quick to adapt. When your Social Media experience is filled with adversity and everything seems to be against you, remember your goals, your purpose. There will be days you will be disappointed and feel sadness, which is part of being human. When we experience sadness, we have to accept it. All emotions we feel are part of our life. We haven’t learned them. We have inherited them. We control our emotions, our emotions don’t control us. Every emotion has a function and they all contribute to actions and play a role in our life.

Everything that happens in life involves choices. The choices we make change our life. Setbacks are temporary, they become permanent only because we allowed them to be. Change is scary but necessary to move forward. After all, you learn who you are by the toughest of trials in life.

What we have on the inside cannot be taken away nor destroyed by others. Just be bold and be your best self. Don’t yield to trolls. The depths of our character are revealed upon trials in life.

To care for others is to look after them. Help and support your friends, not because you will get something in return. But because it is part of who you are. First, quiet the voices of selfishness and self-gain. Don’t use words such as ‘love’ carelessly. Don’t make promises you can’t keep. Think before you speak, as a word once spoken, cannot be retracted. The same is true in Social Media. When you give your word, keep it and mean everything you say. You can only develop sincerity, when you are responsible for your words and actions. Keep in mind that sincerity is not something you can pretend to have. Sincerity comes from your integrity. Be authentic!

We have a lot to learn from bees. Bees don’t compete, they work with humility and towards a common benefit. They are persistent and focused. They lead a life of selflessness and do whatever is necessary to build a happy “community”.

We all aspire to have wisdom. I believe the seeds of wisdom are planted much earlier in life than during mature adulthood. I also believe wisdom grows out of an exposure to adversity early in life. Wisdom is insightful living. So, just because someone is older, doesn’t necessarily mean he/she is wiser. In fact, some of my wisest loving friends are very young.

Animals whose hoofs are hardened on rough ground can travel any road.” ~Seneca

When you’re in Social Media, Let go of ego. When we recognize in others the same human condition we experience, we are on the verge of knowing ourselves. Do unto others as you would have them do unto you.

Life shouldn’t be taken too seriously and perfection shouldn’t be a goal.

Enjoy the dance of life!

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